In my previous post, I mentioned that my word for 2017 is “Create.” I talked about how I came across the idea of choosing a word for the year. But I realize that my discovery kind of evolved from 2016, when I didn’t choose a word. Instead, I chose and action. Last year, 2016, was my year of saying “Yes.”
I didn’t begin the year with this in mind. Rather, I started the year like I do most years: not making any resolutions because I know I don’t keep them anyway. But somewhere in the first quarter of the year, I decided that I would have to start saying yes to things I would normally say no to. Things like teaching a yoga class someplace unfamiliar. Things like starting a video podcast.
Oh yeah, have I mentioned that in another part of my life I am a knitter? My sister Shelagh and I learned to knit when we were young—she in her early teens, me at around 20. When our sister Irene was in palliative care, we both took up knitting again because it gave us something to do while we sat with her in the hospital. As a side benefit, it is a very calming activity that we both needed in that situation.
One day, Irene asked us what we were going to do with all the scarves and things we were making. We didn’t have a plan for that, but we eventually came up with the idea of selling them online. The three of us talked about so it was going to happen. Shelagh and I researched and read up on selling online and opened a shop on Etsy.
Fast forward 18 months and our knitting evolved into a new world: video podcasting. Turns out there are lots of knitters who podcast and Shelagh wanted to do one too. My initial reaction was, no way! But then I realized that if I didn’t say yes to this, I would be missing out on something potentially fun and special.
I eventually agreed and currently we have posted 15 episodes and have over 500 subscribers to our YouTube channel! Through YouTube and Instagram, we have met virtually some amazing people who knit. And it has given us the opportunity to meet them in person.
This whole experience has really made me understand Jack Canfield’s quote that “everything you want is on the other side of fear.”
So now, when I’m offered an opportunity and my initial reaction is “No, stay in my safe place,” I stop and really examine what I’m feeling. I remind my self of this positive podcasting experience, and then decide if I could actually say yes.
I think coming off a year like that also evolved into my year to create. I’ve begun to recognize that I have been using the excuses of perfectionism, caring what others think, “not having anything worthwhile to say” as blocks. These are all just my fears manifesting in negative self-talk. But focusing on my success in the past will continue to help me say yes and, more importantly, grow and evolve.
On the Mat
Fighting fear means working on my root and solar plexus chakras: chakras 1 and 3. Moving out of that secure place (root) perhaps even away from who I know myself to be now (solar plexus) creates a sense of trepidation, fear. To work on that, I will include Virabhadrasana (Warrior) I and II, Goddess, Baddha Konasana (Bound Angle), Navasana (Boat). I like to include some twists, such as Parivrta Uttkatasana (Revolved Chair) and Ardha Matsyendrasana (Half Lord of the Fishes) to strengthen my solar plexus and sort of “massage” my true, strong self out in front of the fear and negative self talk.
Have you said yes after your initial reaction was to say no? How did it turn out?